Will a weekend really be enough time to create lasting change in your life? While going to boot camp isn’t a bad idea, you may want to start closer to home first.
It’s obvious that to become more assertive you must change. If you are doing something one way and it isn’t working out, you must do things differently. To do things truly differently, that means you must be different as well.
But how do you become the change you want to be?
Getting out of your comfort zone is a great way to grow, both as a person and as a business leader. You have to find ways to push and stretch yourself and while boot camp may help, will you be able to keep the lessons you learned there over the long term?
One huge advantage you have is that it sounds like you already know what the end result should look and feel like.
Now it’s about being and doing.
Get some easy wins by being assertive in situations that aren’t highly confrontational. Then move slowly onto more difficult situations.
I call this process perturbation, which means applying pressure until there is a break down, break through or a break away. You obviously can’t break away from yourself, but you can certainly get the break through you are looking for without having to head to boot camp for a weekend.
Since you have to get out of your comfort zone, and that isn’t always the easiest thing for someone to do on their own, finding someone who will hold you accountable can really help.
If you have an unreasonable friend, tell them what you’re trying to accomplish and ask them to help. If you don’t have a friend or mentor who will hold you accountable, then you should find a trainer or coach who will.
Whatever you choose, you’ll find that once you have gone through perturbation, you will be surprised how easily you can handle the issues that used to plague you and assertiveness shouldn’t be a problem for you anymore.
All the best,
Brad Sugars